Getting into a relationship versus staying in a relationship requires two distinct skill sets to successfully navigate through each of these stages. Yet, surviving a breakup requires a skill set completely unlike the previous two skill sets required to get in and to stay in a relationship. Yet, most people have no clue about the skill set involved with successfully getting through, or navigating a breaking up. After all, where would they have learned about such a process, much less the sills needed to successfully reach closure once they do become involved with breaking up with someone?  

I would go as far as saying that most people haven’t the faintest clue about what it takes to survive a breakup. Most people are like Indiana Jones when it comes time to not only get through a breakup, but to survive one to closure is something they learn as they go through it. In short, like Indiana Jones in a tough situation, they make it up as they go. 

Making it up as they go isn’t a good way to get through a breakup. A person has to know what they are doing as they attempt to successfully navigate through such an often treacherous process. In short, surviving a breakup is more than just out of sight, out of mind. In fact, this breakup process is often one of the most misunderstood processes in all of the relationship journeys. And as such a misunderstood process, many people actually make things worse for themselves as they go through a breakup than getting better as they strive to reach a successful closure to breaking up with their ex.  

This section, and the chapters it contains, provides the reader with a road map of sorts to not only understand how a breakup unfolds, but it also provides them with a road map of sorts so that they can understand where they are along the often confusing process. I have received more comments and appreciation for writing (and lecturing) about this breakup process than any other involved with understanding and dealing with any other aspect of a relationship.  

You can quickly access each of the book’s chapters using the links posted below:

VI. GETTING OUT: SURVIVING A BREAKUP – DIVORCE

1. The Three Stages of a Breakup: Denial, Hope, Empowerment.
2. Hurt: It’s Inevitable.
3. Initiator versus Partner: Whoever Pulls The Trigger Has a Head Start?
4. Your Transition Person: Coach, Drill Sgt., Sage, True Friend.
5. What Is Considered Progress? It’s All About the Net Gains.
6. The More You Date, the Better You Feel? It’s Likely To Backfire.
7. Your Head on a Swivel: Just When You Let Down Your Guard- BAM!
8. Prepare For the Unexpected: Keep An Open Mind.
9. Gender Differences: Be Willing To Read a Pink Book.
10. 10. RRD: Revisionist Romance Disorder: Remembering Only the Good Stuff.